Monday, August 27, 2007

The Other Family Is Back

It's no shock to people that know me that I do not like my daughter's "other family." I try not to use the word hate because that's just an ugly word.

But, how else do I describe them and what I feel? I've known them for 10 years and it's been a LONG 10 years. Anyone ever met an entire family from the backwoods of Alabama who feel that their way is the only right way - ever? Well that's them. I constantly get emails/phone calls from my ex's mom to let me know how I should be raising Missy. Last time I checked she had 3 children, 2 of which didn't turn out so well therefore I think I'll take my own chances on raising her.

Missy does not see her dad. Who's choice? A little bit of both I guess. I refuse to go to court to get money out of him. He would need a job to do that.....ha! Work is not in his vocabulary. I'd rather work 5 jobs than call him up for daycare money because he is just a mean, mean, mean person. I have had the same cell # for years and he's yet to call I don't know the last time he called me. That's sad.

Oh well. I heard through the grapevine some time ago he moved to West Virginia. Thanks for calling your daughter and telling her.

So this is the life I live with the "other family."

It's on my brain because Missy is going to Alabama for the weekend with them. Not her dad. But her grandma and aunt. There are 5 generations alive on that side (wasn't hard since they have kids about every 16 years in the family). Anyway, they are doing pictures with the kids and their great-great grandma.

I should be happy........a no kid weekend. But I am sad. I do not like her going away without me because I cannot protect her from that far away.

It's all I've thought about all little girl and her big trip for the weekend.


Peant Butter and Jelly Boats said...

This must be so hard! Try not to fret over it too much. It won't change that she's going and it will only upset you. Like you said, you get a kid free weekend and it will give Missy a chance to miss you.

Anonymous said...

AWWWW I just stumbled upon your blog, I'm a single mom of a 3 yr old boy, and I know ALL about the "other family" and the knowing more than you do syndrome, and the disappearing act of a father. I feel for you and don't worry, you will have her back soon!!